Single at 35. The history of L.
Sometimes I feel so lonely. There are times when I am home alone for the whole evening. It seems to me that all my friends have families and children, so it’s time to have children too to become happy. But then, I realize that most of my friends who have children, are already divorced, some of them cannot earn enough money on their own; someone begins to socialize after thirty in the company of single people, when they already have two or three children. And I realize that I did everything right.
When I was about 20, I had marriage proposals. But I wanted to study and went abroad. I studied in Southeast Asia, and in their culture they start a family quite late, so I did not experience any pressure. I returned home when I was already in my 30s, got an interesting job, old and new friends, a lot of going out and a lot of new hobbies. And again I enjoyed life. However, I understood that earning money and traveling is good, I thought about starting a family too.
And yet, why do I not regret that I did not get married at 20. Divorce at an early age is very common. Many people get married following their emotions, when all you see is dates, gifts and romance. You don't realize that you are getting married. You feel butterflies and you don't understand responsibility for your decision. It is cliché, but at the age of 20 many young people are not able to cope with the realities of family life. Financial difficulties, disagreements, a desire to develop in a way that your spouse does not support. All this leads to divorce. At 35, I already know who I am and who I want to be, I can earn money and I can meet people I like.
I remember my conversation with my mother, who demanded that I get married. I was already 32, and I was still single. I asked my mother and my family not to push me. Of course, I could get married, but what is better – to have a happy unmarried daughter, with plans for the future, or divorced with a child and social stigma? My mother and other relatives agreed with me. We do not return to this topic anymore, since they realized that I did not want to get married for the sake of marriage. My priority is a happy family!
Some people think that after 30 it is impossible to get married, that men prefer young women. From my own experience, I can say that men prefer beautiful, well-groomed and smart women. Such women can create comfort and make their lives festive. You can be such woman at 20 and 30 and 40. But do not rush to be perfect for him and forget about yourself. Find yourself a hobby, make yourself more attractive. There is nothing wrong with being independent. Think about what requirements you put forward to your beloved one, will he be able to cope with them?
A girl at 25 is as attractive as at 35. And at 20 or 35 you can look and act like a grouchy and boring old bat. You should develop your sexuality, beauty and attractiveness inside. And your man will find you.